True Self False Self: Discovering our core identity

By Richard FayApr 17^th 2018Postsdeath, false self, constructed self, ego, rites of passage, MROP, image, true self, persona, shadow, orphan, striving, flesh, self

The False SelfThere is a version you that you identify with as who you actually are, but it is a complete fiction. It doesn’t actually exist, except within your mind. This is the place of universal addiction, the self-referential, self-defending, self-promoting, self-defeating, self-condemning, endlessly relating-to-everything-from-yourself-as-the-reference-point story you started writing from the first moment you experienced your first flash…

Discarded Wealth

By Richard FaySep 20^th 2017Postsfalse self, constructed self, wisdom, prayer, Reality, awareness, true self

When a great aunt died, my father inherited all her jewellery. My mother sifted through it and deemed most of it worthless. There were gaudy cubic zirconia rings that would dwarf any finger, chintzy stuff that was thinly plated with metals of dubious authenticity. My mother dumped the load on my sister’s bed and said “keep what you want,…

Singing In The Rain

By Richard FayJan 23^rd 2015Postsfalse self, constructed self, limbic, inner child, participation

It is perhaps the happiest movie ever made. Today, it seems Pollyanna positive, a universe away from every ailment that besets us. No climate change – except rain! No GFC, no terrorism, no mandatory detention centres, no corruption or greed, just a bunch of people gleefully happy to be alive. The cynic dismisses it as fluff, at best…

I Am A Recovering Higher Power

By Richard FaySep 11^th 2014Postsadddiction, addict, false self, constructed self, power, control, sovereignty, powerless, powerlessness

“I am a recovering Higher Power” wrote author Ann Lamott in a recent blog, reflecting on the pain of the death of someone close to her. If she was in charge of the universe, she mused, terrible things would not happen. Yet she knew it would be far worse, some bizarre crossover between Monkey Island and August: Osage…

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