The Gathering
The Gathering is a weekend event for men of all ages run by the Centre for Men and Families Australia. A lot has been said about toxic masculinity and the damage it does in our society. The Gathering is a celebration of healthy masculinity where men can be equipped to be part of the solution, not part of the problem.
Whether you are new to the CFMF community, or a regular face, there will be something for you. The Gathering will include electives and workshops to help you navigate the beauty and pain of life as a man, along with plenty of time to relax, unwind and connect.
Keynote Speaker: David Tensen
David Tensen is an Australian poet, author, and teacher known for his evocative and soulful writing. Blending elements of personal experience, spirituality, and deep empathy, David’s poetry has gained widespread acclaim for its capacity to touch the human spirit – offering readers solace and connection in times of struggle and growth. With a background in leadership, pastoral care, and emotional healing, David brings a unique blend of compassion and insight to his craft, which is evident in both his public speaking and four published collections. David is married to Natalie, has 3 young adult children, and lives on the Sunshine Coast where he currently spends his work-week in aged care chaplaincy, lecturing, and completing a PhD at UniSC.
Discover more at www.davidtensen.com.
The Gathering 2026
All the details:
- Date: Friday 22nd May to Sunday 24th May 2026
- Arrival: 4-5pm Friday
- Depart: Approx 2pm Sunday
- Venue: The Outlook, 4001 Ipswich Boonah Rd, Boonah QLD
All meals, accommodation, bedding and all sessions are included in the cost.
Cost:
- Early Bird $395 (closes 31st October 2025) – cabin accommodation at The Outlook
- Early Bird with Single Hotel Room – $495 (closes 31st October 2025) – Single room at the Boonah Motel (offsite)
- Early Bird with Twin Hotel Room – $475 (closes 31st October 2025) – Twin room at the Boonah Motel (offsite and shared with one other person)
- Full Price $475 (closes 19th May 2026) – Onsite shared cabin accommodation at The Outlook
- Full Price $390 (closes 19th May 2026) – BYO camping at The Outlook
- Day Passes $300 (closes 19th 2026 May)
If you are travelling from interstate and need airport transfers your flights must arrive PRIOR to 2pm on Friday 22nd May and leave AFTER 4pm (preferably 5pm) on Sunday 24th June.
Payment Options: Full amount can be paid by Credit, Debit Card or Direct Debit. To secure your place without playing the full amount immediately a $100 deposit can be made by choosing Direct Debit at checkout, then transfer $100 to the listed account.
Can’t come for the whole weekend? Come for a day instead!
We have a number of options for men that may only be able to attend one day, or live local and would prefer to sleep at home. Click the buttons below to register.
Come along for the full Saturday which includes all meals and full Saturday program
Come along for Sunday which includes breakfast and lunch, and Sunday program (event wraps up at 2pm)
Attend the whole event and sleep at home which includes all meals and full program Friday-Sunday
If you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to get in touch with us: admin@cfma.org.au

The Fathering Journey
Darren Lewis
“It can be easy to become a father… but actually being the father your children need you to be is something entirely different.
Most men’s role as a father was shaped in response to the role that their fathers had played, for good, or for bad.
There are 3 fundamental moves in the game of Volleyball… the Dig, the Set, and the Spike.And there are 3 fundamental moves to discover and implement in our journey to becoming the fathers our sons want to one day become, and the fathers our daughters will want their future husbands to become… also the Dig, the Set, and the Spike. .“

Explorations into Intimacy
Tim Rose
“What is intimacy? Have you even found yourself asking that question? For many men, intimacy = sex. What about when sex is just sex? Or when connecting doesn’t connect? This workshop invites participants to be curious, engage, and explore what intimacy is; what is needed in order for intimacy to be present; the concept of multiple intimacies; and how our needs/desires for intimacy are met, and by whom. Participants will have the opportunity to explore and reflect upon their experiencing of intimacy, and intimacy needs, within a safe, communally ‘held’ space.
Discovery occurs through conversational discussion and experiential engagement where participants can opt in or out as they feel comfortable (vulnerability is encouraged and participants are invited to move outside of their comfort zones, whilst also listening to their felt sense, and experiencing to maintain safety).”

Radicalised: Young Men, Hateful Ideologies and the Cry for a Better Story
“Did you hear that since January, there have been two failed terrorist attacks in my home town of Perth? Both attacks, had they been successful, would have killed close friends of mine. A 31 year old man threw a bomb into a crowd of over 2,500 people, the majority of whom were Aboriginal Aussies. Thankfully the bomb failed to detonate and no one was killed. The other, a 20 year old man, was arrested by police before carrying out simultaneous mass casualty terror attacks targeting WA Parliament House, WA Police Headquarters, and Muslim places of worship. Both men were Aussies of European descent and radicalised online by white supremacist ideology.
This workshop explores the research from leading academics on extremism with the following questions in mind:
- What does the peer-reviewed research say is the cause of such actions?
- How can the average punter stand up and lead an offensive to reverse this trend? “

The Compelling Stories of the False Self
David Cluff
“What participants will experience: This workshop will interactively engage attendees, deepening their self-awareness specific to self-talk, reactivity, and relational triggers. Our thinking processes have ways of launching into convincing narratives in response to ‘trivial to major’ life happenings. Ideally, those who participate will be quicker to tune into the False Self rhythms through the gift of awareness and from the solid base of True Self. ”

Peering into the world of women
Janet & Rebekah Mumford
“This workshop will focus on a Woman’s Journey of Transformation, looking at some of the differences and experiences in life that are uniquely felt by women. Mindful that many in Janet’s generation experienced a different journey to those in younger generations Rebekah and Janet will look at some of the disparities that are currently being experienced by younger generations of women as well as some of the core similarities in their journeys.”

Getting a handle on your stress
Neville Starick
“Stress is something we all carry and is something we like to joke about. In making light of it, however, we can get to the point where we tune out our own experience of stress and just keep powering on. That can become a problem. Not attending to rising stress can have significant consequences to physical and mental health.
In this workshop, we will explore what we mean when we talk about stress, bust some myths about it, identify common and unique indications that your stress is getting out of hand, and come up with some tools for managing it effectively. “

The Impact And Injury of Infidelity, is there hope Beyond Betrayal?"
Noni and David Yates
“David and Noni will present Dr Omar Minwallas Deceptive Sexuality Trauma Model with an overview of The 10 Steps to Infidelity, the three behavioural phases —Covert, Exposure, and Symptom Progression—whilst also addressing the gigantic elephant in the room, that deceptive sexuality is a two-part problem. Their presentation will illuminate how secrecy develops, escalates, and creates harm.
They will also deliver The Impact Presentation, the sobering yet widely overlooked and misunderstood reality as to how infidelity affects partners, children, and the wider family system.”

Blokes, Bullies, and Bodies
Tim Rose
“As a man, it’s likely that you’ve been subjected to, or observed bullying, or measured and judged against skewed concepts or standards of what it is to be a man, at some point in your life. Maybe you’ve been that person, the bloke, or the bully. Whether it be at school, in sports teams or recreational circles, social groups, in the workplace, your relationships, or even your family, you’ve likely been impacted in some way. And those impacts can be lasting.
This experiential workshop invites participants to look below the surface and begin to explore the impacts of bullying and unhelpful standards or representations of being a man upon our bodies. Participants are invited to explore their experiencing via a variety of mindfulness-based exercises, partnered work, and body listening and movement. within a safe communal space. Discovery occurs through experiencing, exploring sensation, and reflection. “

The Contemplative Way: Ancient Paths for Modern Men
Jarrod McKenna
“Most men live on surface of their lives—busy, distracted, disconnected, rarely stopping long enough to listen to what’s really going on underneath.
This workshop offers a different way. Drawing from the contemplative paths found across many wisdom traditions, this session creates space to slow down, become present, and reconnect with something deeper—within ourselves and between all things.
There’s no pressure to believe anything in particular. People of no faith and various faiths are more than welcome to come explore in an inquisitive and non-coercive space. The workshop will focus on direct experience—learning the ancient path of nepsis, an attentive gentleness, where we are present to what is.
For men wanting to be more present to life, to loved ones, and your purpose, this is an invitation to listen… and come home.“

Cultivating Grief Skills for Personal and Communal Care
Elham Day
“This workshop will offer a compassionate and grounded space to explore the deeply human experiences of grief, sorrow and loss. We will examine common misconceptions, myths can keep us from necessary engagement with grief – and learning to relate skilfully with grief can deepen not only a personal connection to life, but also strengthen the life of community around us.“

The Sacredness of Place
Richard Fay
“The Celts speak of thin places, geographical spaces where we experience the presence of the Divine to be palpable, as if the very ground is singing to us. First nations Australians call their land their mother. The Welsh call it hiraeth, a feeling of homesickness and grief for something that no longer exists or perhaps never existed, or a sense of a home on earth that you visit but ache for, or return to. Richard will open space for us to share our own stories of landscape as a true home, as well as trace the rich cultural and spiritual significance of place in our lives. ”
Traveling from Interstate?
A free private bus will collect any participants from Brisbane Airport on Friday 30th May and return on Sunday 1st June. Please indicate that you will require this service once you register.
If you are travelling from interstate and need airport transfers your flights must arrive PRIOR to 2pm on Friday 22nd May and leave AFTER 4pm (preferably 5pm) on Sunday 24th June.
Esther and William Diplock are down-to-earth, experienced therapists who get it—relationships can be amazing, but they can also be stressful, confusing, and frustrating at times. With over 50 years of combined experience in counselling, and workshop facilitation, they’ve helped countless men, women and couples cut through the noise and find real, practical ways to build stronger, more connected relationships. As co-founders of Resonance Together and creators of the ENGAGE for Thriving Relationships program, they specialize in straightforward, real-world strategies that actually help relationships thrive—without the therapy jargon or endless talking.
They are senior trainers and facilitators for Gender Equity and Reconciliation International (GERI) and co-authors in Gender Equity and Reconciliation: Thirty Years of Healing the Most Ancient Wound in the Human Family. Based in Brisbane, Australia, they are deeply committed to nurturing their own relationship and love starting each day with a waterfront walk with their dog.
David and Noni Yates are a husband-and-wife team who bring a unique blend of lived experience, professional insight, and trauma-informed education to their work with individuals, couples, and communities. Together, they specialise in relational integrity, accountability, and the healing of betrayal trauma within families.
Noni and David’s work combine grounded honesty, clinical understanding, and a commitment to supporting men in becoming safe, accountable, and emotionally connected leaders in their homes and communities.
Together they co-authored their memoir Beyond Betrayal 28 Years; Lies–Deceit–Infidelity, giving a raw and honest account of the journey to, through and beyond betrayal.
Noni works as primary counsellor in her private practice Affair Recovery Counselling, she is an Apsats Certified Clinical Partner Specialist and they have both completed Levels 1-3 in the DST model with Dr Omar Minwalla.
Elham Day is a is a grief and death care specialist, background in hospice, palliative care, and bereavement support based in Magandjin/Brisbane. As a counsellor, professional supervisor, and grief practitioner with a with many years of experience walking alongside individuals, families, and communities through death, grief and loss – elham draws from existential, depth and soulful approaches to grief work with a special interest in the transformative role that grief ritual and support processes can hold for community wellbeing.
Jarrod McKenna is an award-winning peace activist, and community organiser whose life and work reflect a deep commitment to nonviolence, justice, and compassion. Drawing inspiration from contemplative traditions, the Peace Church movements, the Catholic Worker ethos, and the prophetic Black Church tradition, Jarrod has worked alongside marginalized communities, including those who are unhoused, imprisoned, detained, or seeking refuge.
His advocacy for human rights and climate justice has been featured by international outlets such as the BBC, Al-Jazeera, and The Guardian, and his grassroots efforts have inspired transformative movements like “Love Makes A Way,” Australia’s largest faith-based nonviolent civil disobedience initiative. As a pastor in Melbourne and Perth, and co-host of the InVerse Podcast with Dr. Drew Hart, Jarrod continues to challenge and inspire others to reimagine contemplation and action in the pursuit of justice.
Jarrod lives on Wadjuk Noongar land in Perth, Australia, with his wife Kat and their five sons, who are his greatest teachers.
Richard Rohr has said of Jarrod McKenna, “It’s amazing that we should need to tell people that Jesus taught and surely lived a nonviolent life. And almost as amazing—and wonderful—that Jarrod McKenna should be able to teach it so well in our time and culture.”
David Tensen is an Australian poet, author, and teacher known for his evocative and soulful writing. Blending elements of personal experience, spirituality, and deep empathy, David’s poetry has gained widespread acclaim for its capacity to touch the human spirit – offering readers solace and connection in times of struggle and growth. With a background in leadership, pastoral care, and emotional healing, David brings a unique blend of compassion and insight to his craft, which is evident in both his public speaking and four published collections. David is married to Natalie, has 3 young adult children, and lives on the Sunshine Coast where he currently spends his work-week in aged care chaplaincy, lecturing, and completing a PhD at UniSC.
Discover more at www.davidtensen.com
Dom Fay is a radio announcer, podcaster, and Head of Faith & Spirituality (Secondary) at Coomera Anglican College.
Alongside co-hosting the Zach & Dom show on the KIIS Network, Dom also hosts podcasts exploring two of his great passions – emergent spirituality (On The Way) & the Brisbane Lions (The Roar Deal).
Neville Starick is a qualified and experienced educator and counsellor, specialising in working with tradies, professionals and business owners navigating significant life change. Having experienced and reflected on his own health challenges, relocations, relationship reconfigurations and career redirections, Neville recognises how overwhelming life change can be, and how easily responses to change are misunderstood. He provides in-person and online support for those whose worlds have been overturned, helping them to get back on an even keel and to create a good life beyond the messiness of transition. He completed his Rites of Passage in 2014. Neville lives with his wife on the border of New South Wales and Victoria, just across the Murray River from Mildura, Victoria. Outside of work, he enjoys keeping fit, reading good fiction, writing poetry as the mood strikes, travelling to new places, and having long meandering conversations over a coffee.
Darren founded, and officially launched ‘Fathering Adventures’ in July 2008.
Until then, Darren had worked in the construction / consulting engineering industry since 1988, and managed his own structural design & drafting service since 2000.
In his spare time, as the need arose, Darren helped to counsel individuals & relationships out of the pain of their past, into restoration, freedom, and life.He agrees with what sociologists and anthropologists have discovered after studying cultures around the world and down through the ages… “As goes the men; so goes the society”.For this reason, he has continued to lead men toward the path of authentic manhood… helping them to face and resolve wounds from their past, and equipping and empowering them to lead successful lives as men… both in their workplaces, and in their homes, as husbands and fathers… encouraging them to be all they desire to be.He has done this one-on-one, in small groups, men’s retreats, and other various speaking engagements, for more than 25 years now.He has also led by example… overcoming the challenges a child growing up in an alcoholic home brings.
Just before Fathers Day in 2011, Darren had the great honour and privilege of being awarded the title of Queensland Father of the Year at a Luncheon in the State’s Capital.
Darren has been married to his wife Melissa since 1991. They live in Townsville, in Tropical North Queensland, Australia, and have 4 adult sons. Darren believes in living what he teaches, so his spare-time is usually devoted to intentional one-on-one time with his beloved wife Melissa, each of their sons, their two daughters-in-law, and their 3 precious grandchildren.
Melissa describes Darren as being “honest, intelligent, discerning, trustworthy, loving, compassionate, hard-working, self-motivated, self-disciplined, self-sacrificing, honourable, and courageous”.
Neil has been married for 40 years and has 4 sons between the ages of 22 and 34. Having trained as a counsellor in the UK in the 1990s,
Neil has nearly 30 years’ experience counselling individuals and couples through relationship issues. He currently has a private counselling practice on the Gold Coast, is a seasoned lecturer and clinical supervisor and presenter.
Dom Fay is a broadcaster, a podcaster, and a comedian. He is currently one half of the comedy duo Zach & Dom, heard nightly on the KIIS Radio Network around Australia, and also co-host of AFL podcast The Roar Deal and spirituality podcast On The Way. Alongside his media work, Dom is also employed at an Anglican school as Faith & Spirituality Coordinator, working alongside high school students as they wrestle with the big questions of life, faith, identity, and meaning. He has recently created Private Speaking, a card game to move people into deeper conversations.
For many years Joel McKerrow has been holding together the tension of being a Father and a husband, as well as a full-time creative. He is a writer, performer, poet, educator, speaker, podcaster, university lecturer and a host of other things. Before poetry took over his life Joel was running courses in identity and spiritual formation and now spends much of his work focussing on the intersection between creativity and spirituality. Joel has five published books as well as five spoken word/music albums. He is the director of The School for Creative Development and is the artist ambassador for TEARFUND Australia
Janet is a Clinical Counsellor in her private practice “Camino Counselling”. She has been connected with Centre for Men and Families for over a decade and has led women’s groups in various capacities for thirty years. After completing a Women’s Rights of Passage in North Carolina in 2024 Janet pioneered “The Camino Women’s Journey” last year with a small group of women. This is a yearlong course commencing with a weekend retreat and followed by six circles throughout the year inviting women to connect, reflect, heal and move towards greater authenticity. Married for 35 years, Janet is a mother of five daughters and has three grandchildren.
Janet will be joined by her daughter Rebekah who, in her late twenties, has considerable life experience, a deep understanding of the challenges and differences that women of her generation face and a maturity and depth of self-awareness that belies her age.
Richard Fay is a psychotherapist and spiritual director in private practice in Brisbane, specialising in adult presentation of childhood attachment trauma and men’s mental health.
Richard is married and has three adult sons, and is unreasonably bonkers about the Brisbane Lions. Richard is an ambassador for the Centre for Men and Families and a past CEO of CFMF.
Dan Foster is the CEO of the Centre for Men & Families and has a passion for providing safe places for men to process their emotional wounds, to overcome trauma in a deep and profound way. In his professional life, he has worked as a youth worker, school teacher, and pastor. He pioneered a work for young men to engage them in ritual work that helps to deepen their maturity and gives them a framework to process their pain. He is a prolific and passionate blogger and poet. He and his wife Ann-Marie are raising three children and are forging a path together through the complex word of understanding adolescent minds.
Robert has learnt to love himself so he can love others. He loves communing in nature at the beach and in the bush. He specialises in supporting others to understand who they truly are with the help of Counselling, Coaching and Mentoring one on one and in educational group webinars. Robert is a clinical registrant of The Psychotherapy And Counselling Federation of Australia and a Certified Coach with The Morter Institute in the USA. He is an Elder through Mens Wellbeing Inc.
A Brisbane based urological surgeon with a passion for men’s health and well-being. With years of experience in 3 countries, addressing common and complex urological issues, with a practical, no-nonsense approach to conversations that many men shy away from—but need to have.
Beyond the operating room, he has been involved with the Centre for Men and Families since 2015, supporting men on their journeys toward becoming better men, better husbands, and better fathers. His own transformative experience began with rites of passage that set him on a path of self-discovery, shaping his understanding of what it means to live authentically as a man.
David Cluff is a husband, father, grandfather, and an experienced counselor and trauma psychotherapist with over a decade of post-graduate experience. His counseling background spans the not-for-profit sector, sessional lecturing, and private practice. David has a deep fascination with understanding the impact of traumatic events, attachment trauma, and grief on an individual’s sense of self and daily functioning. He is particularly passionate about exploring, studying, and applying effective remedial therapies to support healing and recovery.
I am a passionate lover of nature in all its forms, in particular human nature. I love to see the potential released all things from buildings I have worked on as a tradesperson, old furniture and houses I have restored and renovated and people who I walk with as a therapist and guide.
I work in ways that are nature-based and wholeness-focussed, not merely wanting people to not be struggling, but rather creating the conditions for thriving: Uncovering gifts and living them into the world.
I am a husband of 26 years, Father of 4 grown children, Businessman for 25 years, Tradesman, Counsellor (Since 2008), Group Facilitator & Soul Work Guide. I have been involved in Centre for Men since 2004, as a counsellor, Group facilitator, retreat leader, Board member & MROP Elder.
Tim Rose is a qualified Counsellor and Creative Arts Therapist with a passion for body-based practice and movement, Somatics, and expressing with the body that which is occurring within.
With a long-standing background in the people-helping field including pastoral ministry, twelve-step recovery work, trauma recovery, and lived experience peer support, Tim is a deeply intuitive practitioner. Coupled with his contrasted lived experience, Tim brings a very rich and diverse collection of skills and abilities to his collaborative working with others which leads to his unique embodied facilitation.
Tim resides in Melbourne, Victoria, and is an author and poet, self-confessed ‘fussy foodie,’ and ‘group junkie.’ In his personal time, Tim enjoys writing, music and film, photography, architecture, cooking, dining out, and the ‘other’ love of his life – Lego.
Phil Cox is a listener, learner, thinker, and communicator with a deep curiosity about life in all its complexity—its devastating wounds, its ecstatic joys, and the Spirit that holds it all together. As a Spiritual Director, he creates spaces where people can share the fullness of their stories, be heard without judgment, and reflect on their lives with honesty and depth.
Phil is especially passionate about helping men find the freedom to live courageously from their deepest and most authentic selves.
He lives in Brisbane with his wife, Suz, and their three children, Aria, Porter, and Levi. A lifelong baseball fan, he follows the Atlanta Braves with devotion. He is also captivated by the music and poetry of Bob Dylan and Ryan Adams and can occasionally be found behind a drum kit whenever the opportunity arises.