Posts by Richard Fay

Richard is the CEO of the Centre for Men, has a background as a pastor and spent many years in the corporate sector. He has a masters in counselling and a diploma in ministry, and has a heart to champion men, women, marriages and families. Richard is married to his wife Judy and has three sons.

Reversal Learning

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What’s reversal learning? I hear you ask. It’s a pretty important mechanism that I need to work in my brain, as I discovered a couple of night’s ago. I arrived home at 10.30pm after a very long day, which was preceded by an even longer day (it ended at 1.30am). My wife, who lectures, is in orientation week at…

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Living Free of the White Male System

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In 1972, Ann Wilson Schaef, an American psychotherapist, coined the phrase “white male system.” which is a consciousness that she says infects everyone living in western society. It’s a very addictive way of thinking and feeling that imprisons us, but we don’t know it exists because of how clever the system is. Imagine a prison cell with four…

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Reminder: Men’s Breakfast on Saturday 4th March with Ralph Reilly

This is a reminder of the first men’s breakfast for 2017 on Saturday 4th March at 7am, concluding by 9am. A continental breakfast will be served at 7.15, followed by a talk by Ralph Reilly. Ralph is the Australian Coordinator for incarnational mission network “Servants to Asia’s Urban Poor.” Ralph’s journey has taken him from Honours in Physics, through…

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BBQ night and talk: Living Free of The White Male System

Over the past 500 years, society has constructed a way of thinking and living that now imprisons men, trapping them in cycles of futility. Get good grades, go to university or learn a trade, work hard, pay the bills, raise the kids, wrestle with traffic and hopefully have something at the end of it all to take a few cruises before…

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Why The Rich Are More Equal Than Others

I once heard a talk on the underlying value of a society, and how it unconsciously affects how that society lives. Some societies are ruled by the state: Much of Eastern Europe was once under this cloud. Today, North Korea is one of the few remaining countries with this ideology. Fear predominates, suspicion is rampant, and dissension is silenced,…

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Flow

Hungarian psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi formed a concept he calls flow, which we might term being in the zone. I’m imagining jazz musician James Morrison ‘feeling’ the music and improvising so that he becomes an extension of it; he experience his whole being light up as the notes flow through him from secret wells of delight. His proficiency meets…

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Beauty

I grew up in a culture that embraced it head on, through music and art and food, through design and fashion and flowers, perfume and poise and the gentle love of a mother for her child. My early memories are of flowery patterns billowing out of pleated frocks, offsetting my mother’s refusal to shave her hairy legs. That…

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